Portpartum Survival Kit - Vaginal Birth

Let me start this post by saying that I am literally LIVING with this survival kit right now - I gave birth six days ago and the list of "goodies" below have saved me from a lot of discomfort.  Every woman is different and every delivery is different, so if you've found other ways to assist in the postpartum healing process, definitely let me know!

For an uncomplicated vaginal delivery, there's really not a whole lot that us ladies can do to limit some of the pain and discomfort - your uterus is contracting back to it's pre-baby size, your breasts are sore, and the pain "down there" is super uncomfortable.  One of the side-effects of an uncomplicated delivery is also that most doctor's won't prescribe you any super "cray cray" pain medications either (which I consider a GOOD thing).  So what can we do to help our bodies?  Here's my super short list of easy to find and super affordable "postpartum survival kit" goodies:

Breast Care

1. Nursing Sports Bra: I purchased several bras for nursing prior to delivery, but the two that I have on a constant wash/use cycle right now are my two nursing sports bras.  They are much more comfortable than the under-wire options I have, and they are easier to shove to the side for the super frequent feedings you'll have with your newborn.  I bought mine at Motherhood Maternity during a bra sale - if you have one of these stores (or one like it) in your area, ask them when their next sale will be and plan to buy in bulk before baby is born - My bras, sports and otherwise, averaged $10-$15 each - super cheap!
2. Nursing Pads: Your nipples WILL hurt.  You can try going without a bra, but you'll quickly find that the friction from your shirt hurts too much.  Putting a nursing pad inside of your bra will protect the bra from leakage and limit friction on your nipples.  These are available in cloth and disposable options - Cloth is a little harder to find, but the disposable ones are pretty much available anywhere that sells baby or maternity gear.  I opted to buy cloth ones (I'm a cloth mom, what can I say?) and use one pair each day, one pair overnight.  In total I bought 10 pairs for less than $5 each, but I'm sure that you can find cheaper options on EBay if you're super interested in cloth.  Disposable pads typically come in packs of 30-50 for less than $10.
3. Lanolin Cream: I use lanolin cream twice daily on my nipples to sooth the ache from having an infant that is still learning to latch properly.  This is a miracle cream!  It will keep your nipples from cracking, will calm pain, and it doesn't need to be washed off before breastfeeding, as it is completely safe for baby.  Depending on the brand, you can get lanolin for $10-$20 per tube.  I opted for Lansinoh because it is a truly "one ingredient" cream - check your cream's ingredients for additives!

Prescribed Medications

1. Stool Softener: My doctors for both of my pregnancies prescribed Colace (Docusate Sodium) as a stool softener following my vaginal births.  Because you are so sensitive, and many women have stitches to deal with, a stool softener helps to limit pain and pressure when you're "taking care of business."
2. Pain Medication: This will vary from woman to woman (allergies may also play a factor) and may also vary depending on your doctor.  I have had two unmedicated deliveries with mild to moderate tearing and I was given 600mg Motrin after both.  Talk with your doctor about your options - I preferred any option that would limit my intake of medication - some women don't really care and just want to be comfortable.  Be sure to educate yourself on your options. 

Care for "Down There"

1. Super Absorbency Feminine Pads: You'll be bleeding for several weeks following delivery - the first week, this flow is will likely mimic a heavy period.  I opted to get the largest pads I could find to cover this first few weeks because I didn't want to worry about staining on my clothing and I would also be using witch hazel pads (see below) so I wanted to get a pad that would absorb that liquid too.  You can get cloth pads if you like, though I've never been able to wrap my head around the idea of a reusable feminine hygiene product (I guess I just lost my "crunchy mom" card).  Disposable pads should be available at any drug or grocery store.
2. Witch Hazel Pads: Pre-moistened witch hazel pads act as a natural, cooling and relieving astringent during your first week(s) postpartum.  If you give birth in a hospital, this should be something that you get sent home with, but I found that the amount you get for free typically only lasts a day.  I wasn't able to find pre-moistened pads in any stores, so I bought witch hazel on it's own (this is available nearly everywhere - try CVS or stores like it) and large circular cotton pads (try your local store's makeup section for these - just do NOT get the exfoliating kind!).  Witch hazel and the cotton pads are only a few dollars each.
3. Peri Bottle: This is another freebie for hospital moms - if you don't give birth in a hospital, peri bottle's are actually kind of hard to find - but any drug store will have travel sized squeeze bottles, which work just as well.  You aren't able to wipe yourself down there at first (pleasant thought, I know), so you'll use the peri bottle to squeeze warm water to cleanse yourself. 
4. Anesthetic Spray: This is totally optional, but something I've totally bought into.  Some moms say they don't work, others swear by them.  I use the Dermoplast Pain Relieving Spray, which is simply a no-touch benzocaine spray.  Benzocaine is an over the counter topical pain reliever that has no proven negative impact on the environment and is considered safe for use by most women - there is the potential to be allergic to it though, so talk to your doctor before use.

Have anything to add?  

I'd love to hear what worked for you during your recovery from a vaginal delivery!  Every woman is different, so I'd love to hear your thoughts.  If there's a desire for it, I can also write a post on C-Section recovery - just let me know if you'd like to see that.

Creating a Birth Plan - Part Three: Postpartum

Labor and delivery are over and you're now the proud parent of a beautiful baby boy or girl (maybe both!) - But, the planning doesn't stop there.  While you've delivered your child, the journey of giving birth is not quite over yet for you and your little one.

Your postpartum care will be, in part, determined by the manner of your delivery - this includes the type of facility (or home) that you give birth in.  For home deliveries, customization and comfort will be more readily available.  For hospital births, your options may be more limited because of standard procedures in place at your hospital's labor and delivery ward.  The important thing to remember, though, is that options STILL exist.  Plan ahead and know what to expect.

• Breastfeeding:  One of the most difficult aspects of my postpartum experience with my son was breastfeeding.  I had a lactation consultant assist me when I encountered trouble and even then I wasn't as successful as I hoped I'd be.  Prior to delivery, do your research - maybe even take a class about it.  Determine the lactation assistance available at your hospital or birthing center and know at what point you'd like to have help brought in.  You should also look into breast pumps, just in case those are necessary for your child to consume breast milk.  Research baby formulas if you do not plan, or are unable, to breastfeed.
• Pain Management:  It goes without saying that you'll be slightly uncomfortable (if not MORE than slightly) following the birth of your child - whether you give birth vaginally, via c-section, with or without medication.  Discuss your pain management options with your doctor and determine what you're comfortable with - acetaminophen, percoset, etc.  If you know that you'll be having a c-section, discuss what your wound care routine will be and the timeline of recovery.
• Hospital Stay:  For those of you giving birth in a hospital, be sure that you know what normal procedure is for hospital stays for all birth options - For vaginal unmedicated, many hospitals will plan for a discharge 24 hours following birth.  For vaginal deliveries with an epidural, it might be extended.  That extension will go even further with a c-section.  Plan ahead and know what to expect.  Perhaps there is flexibility and you can opt to get out of the hospital sooner.  Discuss these options with your doctor and pack your hospital bag accordingly.
• Nursery or In Room?:  This wasn't even an option for me, but it should still be discussed for hospital deliveries.  Once you've been moved to your recovery room, would you like your child to remain in your recovery room with you, or would you prefer that your baby be taken to the hospital's nursery?  If you'd prefer the nursery, would you like your baby brought to you for feedings or would you allow the hospital staff to bottle-feed?
• Baby's First Vaccination:  Controversial topic warning!  Another consideration for a hospital birth is when and whether you would like your baby's first vaccination administered.  A pediatrician will be monitoring your child while you are in recovery and during their rounds, in the United States at least, you will given the choice to have the Hepatitis B vaccination given.  Will you be following a traditional or an altered vaccine schedule for your child?
• Circumcision:  For those moms expecting little boys, there is the question of circumcision.  This can also be a contentious topic, so I will only say that you have the option as a parent to elect to have your son circumcised, or to not have them circumcised.  The decision is yours so be sure you know the method used at your hospital and what the care instructions would be should you elect to have the procedure done.
• Guests:  Another important consideration for your recovery is who you would like to come to the hospital to visit with you and your new baby.  It's important for those giving birth in a hospital to know their hospital's rules on visitors who are under-aged, and if those policies change during flu season.  Know what visiting hours you have available and plan accordingly.  I personally chose to limit my visitors to my sisters and my parents... the woman who shared a recovery room with me opted to have 1,000,000 people with her from the minute visiting hours started until the minute they ended.

Up Next!

Hopefully this gave you a few things to think about when considering your options for postpartum care.  Next I'll be discussing emergencies - the least fun part of this series.   However, I feel it's important to plan for everything - even if it means thinking about unplanned c-sections and NICU stays.

Ready for Baby - Hospital Bag Edition

Time for something a bit fun, but also important for those of us moms getting ready to welcome a new baby into the family - What to include in your hospital bag!  Whether you're giving birth in a hospital or a birth center, you'll want to pack a bag in advance so that you have everything you need during labor and delivery.  Here's what I'm bringing for my hospital birth:

With my first delivery, I had no clue what to pack and ended up bringing a lot of what I didn't need, plus none of what I actually needed.  This time, I've taken a rather logical approach - everything has a purpose.  If it doesn't serve a purpose, it's not coming.

Beauty Bag

My plan for my "beauty bag" is basic and simple.  I want to be able to wash my makeup off, brush my hair and tie it back, throw on some lotion, some lip gloss, and be able to brush my teeth.  My boss was joking with me the other day that she went with a full makeup bag for her second delivery because she was mortified at how awful she looked in the photos when her first child was born... I honestly could care less and don't plan on having makeup with me.  However, I can definitely see where having some foundation and mascara could help with those photos!

Technology

My choices for my technology serve a few purposes.  My husband will be staying with me during and after delivery, and a lot of this is for him more than me - We'll be bringing our iPad, laptop, and cellphones - don't forget to bring chargers for any devices you have with you - especially your cellphone!  It's hard to announce to family that your baby has arrived without one (and who doesn't want to post a birth announcement on Facebook?).  We aren't big on fancy cameras, so we'll be using our iPhone's for photos - If you are into photography, then remember to bring your battery charger and extra memory cards for photo storage.  My husband and I also do NOT agree on music or television, so headphones are going to go a long way in keeping our sanity intact.

Comfort

This is a BIG one - Us moms need to focus on our comfort during labor - If we just pack for our baby, we run the risk of being miserable ourselves... and that's not fair.  So to prepare for ME, I have a birthing ball ready, nice fluffy pillows to cover up those limp excuses for pillows at the hospital, baggy button-up pajamas, fluffy socks and comfortable house slippers, and a nursing sports bra.

For Baby

Last time around, I had EVERYTHING my son could possibly need... and used none of it.  My hospital will be providing us with bottles if needed, diapers, wipes, etc.  They even will provide a diaper bag, a blanket, and an outfit for our little one.  There's no need to bring any of that and it's impossible to cloth diaper while in the recovery room anyway, so I never considered actually bringing my cloth diapers with me - That will start once we're at home.  All I'm bringing is a cute "coming home" outfit (both a newborn & 0-3 month outfit just in case she's big baby), a nice fluffy blanket to drape over the car seat while we're transporting her to the car and home, and her car seat with base.  That's it.  Nothing else.

What About Everyone Else?

My husband is bringing his own bag as well with a change of clothes, toiletries, snacks, and a pillow.  We have another child who will be staying with family while I'm in labor, so we've also prepared a similar bag for him to take to their house.  If you have older children who are in school, be sure that whoever is taking care of them while you are in labor have been added to their "Approved" list for pick up and drop off.  I've also given my son and my son's teacher a head's up, so it's not a shock to either of them when my family picks him up from school.

Conflicting Feelings, My Pregnancy With Baby #2

As a mother who'd secretly been hoping for a second child since about... three seconds following the birth of my first, I was a bit shocked at my reactions throughout my pregnancy with Baby #2.

I have been constantly conflicted.

You see, my son is six - he's in kindergarten and finally starting to spread his wings and become a more independent little creature.  It's a joy to watch him make new friends, learn new things, and start to truly appreciate the world around him.

For the past several months, though, my pregnancy has forced me to take a step back from my son's adventures due to various complications that kept me a home in bed, while my husband went to school functions, birthday parties, etc.

I've found myself frustrated - even angry - that I was MISSING OUT on my son in order to bring this new baby into the world.  Those feelings, not at all aimed at my unborn daughter - more of a reaction to my own limitations - shocked me.  I never would have thought that I'd be one of those "miserable pregnant ladies" ... But I think I am sometimes.  So what can I do to stop this cycle of frustration and anger in order to enjoy both my son and my pregnancy?

Accept Your Limitations

I think that we moms do occasionally hold ourselves to the "Super Mom" standard - we think that we should be able to anything and everything... and then we get upset when we can't.  It's important that we accept the fact that, while we're pretty amazing, we are NOT Super Woman.  During pregnancy, our bodies are going through so much - It's okay to be tired.  It's okay to stay in bed an extra hour and let your husband cook breakfast.  It's okay to miss the daily school drop-off because you've got severe morning sickness.

IT'S OKAY.  We can't be everywhere, we can't do everything.  Accepting that you can't do it all is the first step in limiting your frustrations when you're aren't there for EVERYTHING.  My son loves running into the room to show off a project and to let me know his spelling test scores.  He knows that his little sister is in my belly that it makes me tired sometimes... and you know what?  He understands.  He's only six and he manages to cut me more slack than I do.

Enjoy the Little Things

Recently my son participated in a Spell-A-Thon at school and parents were invited to sit in to watch as the kids all took a spelling-bee style test.  I'd worked with Baby #1 on his words at home and while he wasn't 100% perfect with everything, I knew he'd do extremely well.  That practice at home was so much fun - he started quizzing me too and it ended in fits of giggles as I tried to spell "supercalifragilisticexpialidocious" (I couldn't, by the way).

The day of the Spell-A-Thon arrived and I couldn't make it - between feeling incredibly rundown (did I mention I'm 9 months pregnant?), having extremely swollen feet that made walking a problem, AND work, I had to miss it.  My husband attended in my place... and I was miserable.  I wanted to be there SO badly.  So, instead of enjoying the memory of those giggles from preparing for the Spell-A-Thon, I could only focus on the fact that I wasn't there for the main event.

...and that's not fair to me or to my son.  We had an absolute BLAST studying his spelling words and he shared the entire story about the Spell-A-Thon with me that night at home.  These moments doing homework - while they may not stick out as "monumental" in the grand scheme of things - are still important and I should still be able to enjoy them, not focus on all of the other things that I couldn't participate in.

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Back into the game - Returning to work after baby

Yesterday I attended a local networking event for small businesses and met an interesting woman who had labeled herself a "Working Mom Support Coach."  Essentially, she provides guidance for women who can't handle the readjustment back into the workforce following the birth of their children.   She had zeroed in on me as the "token pregnant lady" at the event and spoke to me about how women needed extra support in learning how to achieve a new life balance.

As a working mom, I thought this was an interesting concept - How hard is the readjustment when we go back to work?  I don't think that I really focused on the "difficulty" last time - going back to work was just my reality.  However, when you consider the hormonal changes in our postpartum bodies, the guilt of leaving our child with a daycare provider or family member, trying to find a place to pump at the office, etc... It can be a really tough time for us.

So how can we "get back into the game?"

I'm extremely proud of my career - while I'd love to be a Stay-At-Home-Mom, it's not in the cards for my family, and my reality is that I'm going back to work following the birth of my daughter... and yes, it'll be hard on me physically and emotionally - So how can I prepare and make this transition easier?

Stay Focused: It's easy to get overwhelmed by the idea of leaving a small baby at home and heading to the office for eight hours while someone else takes care of your child - parental guilt is common, especially when you're first making the transition following your maternity leave.  What I've found works to help you find your "new balance" is to stay focused on what you're doing - don't focus on what you're NOT doing.

I don't know any working moms that wouldn't rather spend more time with their children - but if you focus solely on what you're missing out on at home, you'll never be able to readjust to work-life.  When you're at work, be AT WORK.  When you're at home, be AT HOME.  Be as amazing at your job as you were before, stay in touch with your child's care provider during breaks and lunch, and leave the deadlines and budgets and benchmarks at the office when you leave for the day.  Don't try to carry the load of mom and employee 24/7.

Take Care of You: Often times, whether you're a working mom or a stay-at-home-mom, we mothers tend to focus on everyone else but ourselves.  The last person to get the care and attention they deserve is US.  Maybe it's just our maternal nature... Or, for working moms, that desire to "make up" for what we miss while we're at work.  Frankly, that's not fair.

Postpartum, our bodies are a roller coaster.   Hormones are going nuts, many of us have extra weight that makes us feel unattractive, and we're healing from a pretty major physical stress - giving birth to a child is no joke!  For weeks, sometimes months, our bodies just don't feel "like us" and it's not right to forget that we have our own needs.  So what do you do?

Take a bubble bath.  Eat healthy.  Get your partner's help with the baby night so that you can get some sleep.  Get your hair done.  Paint your nails.  DON'T FORGET THAT YOU'RE IMPORTANT TOO.

Don't Compare: One of my biggest pet-peeves is when mothers, or just women in general, compare themselves to each other.  As the mother of a kindergartener, I'm constantly feeling the pull of comparing myself to the moms that can drop their kids off and pick their kids up from school everyday - I only get to do that once a week because of my schedule, and I've created this false idea that those moms must think I'm a horrible parent because they see my husband more than they see me.

The reality is that putting the stress of comparison on ourselves only makes us unhappy.  Yes, there are times when I wish I'd pushed harder to be the stay-at-home parent in my marriage, but the honest truth is that I'm the working-parent for a reason.  I value my time at the office and I want to be out there growing as a professional - and there's nothing wrong with that.  I LOVE my job.  My husband is such an amazing man for letting me chase my dreams and I'm incredibly luckily that he was willing to leave his career to raise our kids.

Bottom Line?

Working parents are common, so don't hate yourself for leaving your baby to get back to work.  It's important that we set a good example of our kids, whether we stay at home with them or if we go back to the office.  If you spend your life focused on guilt and everything that you aren't doing, it'll be hard to set that great example because you'll be miserable.  No, you might not get a "home cooked" dinner on the table every night and yes, you'll miss the occasional milestone - and it will suck.  But if we lived our lives based on what we didn't do, we'd never accomplish anything.  Just love yourself and love your kids.  It's the best any of us can do.

Creating a Birth Plan - Part Two: Delivery

Now that we've covered considerations for labor, it's time to think about the main event - Delivery!  Again, I don't want to exclude any birth options here - just give you a few things to think about.  If you have additional items on your birth plan regarding labor or delivery, please let me know in the comments - it's always great to hear from other moms.

• Positioning: During labor you may have used specific techniques to work your way through contractions - now that it's time to push, do you have a plan?  Would you like to squat, have assistance with leg support, stand up, be in a birthing tub, lay on your side, etc?  Be sure to share your preferences with the staff at your hospital/birthing center, or have the area ready well in advance if you've chosen a home birth.
  
  
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• Coaching: Are you going to "wing it" as you push, or are you going to have coaching support?  Following your body's natural instincts may seem a little scary, but I found that my body just took over once I began the final stages of labor - But what if you're not comfortable with that?  Perhaps you have a doula or you have developed a plan with your partner - regardless of your approach, let those around you be aware if you'd like to depend on them for guidance.
• How's it looking down there?  Would you like to watch as your child enters the world by aid of a mirror?  Do you want to keep your eyes as far from that experience as possible?  Some women enjoy the ability to watch as the baby crowns and then eventually makes it's way into the world - I wasn't one of those moms.  A good way to judge this is to either witness a birth in-person or watch a birthing video so that you know what to expect.
• Episiotomies and Tearing: I covered this last time as well, but it bears repeating - Have you thought about whether you would like to try alternatives like perineal massage before resorting to an episiotomy?  Would you rather tear naturally than have the incision?  Talk to your healthcare provider about their approach to tearing as well so that you're prepared for their advice during labor.
• The Big Moment:  Would you like yourself or your partner to pull the baby "up and out?"  Are you going to have the baby placed on your chest immediately after birth?  For C-Section moms, would you like to try for as much facial contact as possible once the baby is delivered - and will your partner follow the baby out of the operating room or stay with you?
• Cutting the Cord: This is both a question of "Who?" and "When?"  Would you like to cut the cord yourself or would you like your partner too?  Are you okay with immediately cutting the cord or would you like to delay this until the cord stops pulsating?  What about banking of cord blood - are you familiar with what that process is like and have you already paid to set up cord-blood banking?
• Placenta: When it comes to the delivery of your placenta, would you like to have spontaneous delivery?  Are you interested in viewing the placenta or retaining it?  Should your healthcare provider discard it?  It's become much more mainstream to consume your placenta after birth - are you aware of the options and the benefits? 
• Baby's First Exam: Often in hospital births the nursing staff will remove the baby to the other side of the delivery room to complete baby's first exam - Would you prefer that this process be completed while your baby is still on your chest?  If not, would like yourself or your partner present during the exam?  Also consider heel sticks - my son got one without my knowledge when he was born - be sure you're fully aware of everything that is happening to your baby!  If you are having a home birth, what is the plan if your care provider feels that your child needs medical attention?
• Post-Delivery Medications for Mom: Pitocin following delivery is common for the prevention of postpartum hemorrhage - would like this administered or would you prefer to skip it?  What about acetaminophen, percoset, stool softeners, or laxatives for pain relief following delivery?
  
• Post-Delivery Medications for Baby: Eye ointment is very common for babies, used to prevent blindness.  Vitamin K injections are also fairly common for bleeding prevention.  Do you have a preference for when these medications are administered?  Would you prefer that your child not receive one or the other?
• Bathing your newborn: Do you want your baby bathed after birth, or would you like to wait?  Do you know the benefits of vernix on your baby's skin and what a 24 hour absorption period can do for your child?

Next Up!

Postpartum, Emergencies, and Composing your Birth Plan are still to come in this series.  Keep updated on future posts by following or subscribing to The Cozy Life!

Pregnancy and Nail Polish

So you're pregnant and super excited for your upcoming baby - To celebrate, you and a few friends head over to your local nail salon to get manicures.  Super fun, right?  Definitely!

... But is it safe?

Toxins in Nail Polish

Have you ever heard of Three-Free or Five-Free nail polish?  These are polishes designed without the presence of chemicals found in more classic polish formulas.  Three-Free formulas are made without toluene, dibutyl phthalate (DBP), and formaldehyde - while Five-Free polishes are free of those three, plus formaldehyde resin and camphor.

Toluene is a compound that might be connected to reproductive issues - definitely bad news.  DBP can impact hormone production and causes headaches - again, bad news.   Formaldehyde is a carcinogen and can cause breathing problems - super bad!  Formaldehyde resin, while not as toxic as straight formaldehyde, is a known allergen.  Camphor can cause seizures... and if that wasn't bad enough, it can also cause yellowing of your nails.

Nail Polish During Pregnancy

While the information above may sound really scary, many medical professionals don't think that the occasional coat of polish on your nails will cause you or your baby any harm.  A common recommendation is limiting the number of times you use nail polish, and only exposing yourself to polish in well-ventilated areas so that you are less likely to inhale fumes - and, of course, use Three-Free or Five-Free brand polishes whenever possible.

So which polish should I use?

Let's focus on easy-to-find brands that are usually stocked at your local drugstore or beauty supply shop - A number of extremely popular nail polishes fall into the Three-Free category - like OPI, Essie, and Sally Hansen.  These are likely the brands of polishes that make up most average women's nail polish collections (including mine).

But what if you want to be extra cautious and limit yourself to Five-Free?  A few popular brands are also in this category - including Zoya and Chanel.  One thing to note on these, however, is that they are definitely more expensive that their Three-Free alternatives.

What about nail polish remover?

Acetone is typically the concern with nail polish remover.  Most experts will tell you that the greatest concern with use is that you'll feel nauseous from the fumes.  Acetone isn't classified as a carcinogen and there is no known connection to birth defects... so un-polish away (in a
well-ventilated area)!  Non-acetone removers are available as well, but definitely check the label to make sure that the chemicals present in those removers aren't replacing one bad ingredient for another.

Getting your dog ready for baby

One of my first concerns when I found out I was pregnant with Cozy Baby #2 was our family dog, Bacon (amazing name, right?!).  Our dog is a bundle of cuddles and energy - he's also a rescue dog who came with his fair share of behavioral issues when we adopted him three years ago.  It took a while to get him used to Cozy Baby #1, and it's important to start focusing now on getting him ready for Cozy Baby #2.

So how can we make the transition easier for our dog?  That's a loaded question.

Let's start with whether you buy into the idea that your dog "knows" you're pregnant - Not everyone believes this concept, and I'll admit that I'm not overly confident that my dog has any clue what's going on.  However, the hormonal changes going on inside a pregnant woman does alter our natural "scent" - and smells are something that canines specialize in.  Maybe my dog can tell "something's up," but he's not exactly sure what - Maybe he's known since the minute I got pregnant that a little one was on the way - Who knows.

Going on the assumption that my dog is going to be a bit shocked by a new baby in the house, I want to prep him as best I can.  So let's consider how a baby is going to change our routine.  Right now, you and I both have a pattern for our day - If you have a dog, there are usually certain times the dog is fed, walked, played with, etc.  Will a new baby change these patterns?  Probably.

 

So how do you prepare your dog for these changes?  Start switching up your routine NOW - get your pet used to change and variety.  Break up your long daily walks into more frequent shorter ones.  Feed your dog at slightly varying times each day.  If you think you'll be taking naps during the day (after those lovely "all nighters" with baby), why not start now so that your pet gets used to the idea that your sleep schedule is changing?  This way you can pamper yourself with extra rest AND help your pet

Moving on from there, start to incorporate your "baby gear" into the house - get your dog used to the stroller, crib, swing, etc.  Do you have a small dog like mine?  Does your pet have a knack for getting into things they shouldn't?  Make sure that your pet knows not to sleep or rest in the seat of the stroller & swing.  Teach them that the crib is a "no no" if they are able to climb into it.  We set up our crib months ago to check to see if we'd ever find our dog sleeping in it, under it, or near it - luckily, he's basically ignored it.  What if you plan to take car trips with your animal?  Is the new car seat going to change how you travel with your pet?

It's also time to consider whether you want your dog in your new baby's nursery - I didn't have issues with this when my son was an infant, but I know a number of mothers who kept their animals out of their nurseries.  If you want this separation, look into dog/baby gates that you can install at the entry to your nursery to keep your animal out of the room.  Set up the gate/barrier early so that your animal gets used to the idea that they no longer have access to that room.

What if you have an animal with anxiety or major social issues?

My family makes a point to train our pets from the start - We also are very selective when adopting animals in order to make sure that our pet is safe around children.  But what if your beloved pet was adopted long before you thought about kids and now you're panicking because your animal is not comfortable around small children?

This is an issue better addressed by a professional - Early on in pregnancy you need to work with a trainer to assist you with obedience and socialization concerns.  Professional guidance will help you in making the best decisions for your dog and your new baby.  Check out this link with the ASPCA to assist you in finding professional help.

Creating a Birth Plan - Part One: Labor

Once Cozy Baby #2 became a reality, I was determined to develop a plan for my labor and delivery.  This has been such an important element of my pregnancy that I wanted to share the information with all of you!  With my first child, I had nothing planned - Zero.  This resulted in a stressful birth where I had no clue what was going on and how to answer even the most basic of questions.  I had known that a lot women had "birth plans," but I didn't even know where to start on creating one - I hope that this can help anyone going through a similar situation.

So WHY am I even bothering with this after successfully navigating an unmedicated birth last time without one - Surely I'm better prepared and know what to expect, right?  I don't think so.  First of all, I gave birth to my son six years ago - that's a long time and I've changed a lot since then.  Second, while I was overjoyed at having my son, labor and delivery wasn't a happy experience for me.  Third, I want to make the most of what will likely be my last time giving birth.

Also, just to clarify, this isn't a series that will push "natural birth versus medicated birth" - I support all birth options, even if you choose to go a different route than me.  What's important about giving birth is that YOU are comfortable with what's happening... and that changes from woman to woman.

So let's get started!

• Who?  This is an easy question for me, but might be a hard one for those with large families, or family members planning to fly in from out of town for the delivery - Are those family members expecting to be in the delivery room with you?  Do you WANT them in the delivery room with you?  Do you have older children that you want in the delivery room?  My hospital doesn't allow siblings under the age of 12 - Do you know the policies of your hospital or birthing center?
• Induction: What happens if your labor stalls, or if your labor just DOESN'T start at all?  Have  a plan in place for induction - Do you want to try natural approaches to inducing labor, or are you comfortable starting with medications like Pitocin?  Are you even aware of the natural methods available to you?  Do your research on things like homeopathic/herbal interventions, nipple stimulation, and even acupuncture.
• Hydration: IV's are typical in hospital labors - But what if you'd feel more comfortable eating and drinking during labor?  Talk with you healthcare provider about how they handle hydration during labor so that you know what to expect - and so that you can request alternatives if you aren't satisfied with their normal procedures.
• Contractions and Birth Aids: Have you taken birthing classes that taught you a specific method to "ride through" your contractions?  Do have a preferred approach to handling the pain of contractions - like breathing methods, a birthing ball (my personal favorite), a stool, specific positioning, etc?   Be sure you know how you want to approach your contractions so that the people around you can support you as you work through your labor.
• Monitoring the Baby: I mention this one because it was the MOST frustrating part of my labor experience with my son.  Do you know how your healthcare provider is planning to monitor your baby's heart rate and how often?  Are you comfortable with continuous external monitoring?  What about a scalp monitor?
• Medication: This is the BIG one.  Most conversations about the labor experience start with "medication or no medication?"  Definitely have this planned out - I didn't with my first and it was really confusing to feel pressure from healthcare staff and family to do one or the other without really knowing what I wanted.  Talk to your healthcare provider about the different medication options for pain, how they may impact the progression of your labor, will the medications effect your baby, and what (if any) is the recovery time associated with each option.  Epidurals aren't the only options out there, so educate yourself!
• Episiotomies and Tearing: This was another reality from my first labor - Have you thought about whether you would like to try alternatives like perineal massage before resorting to an episiotomy?  Would you rather tear naturally than have the incision?  Talk to your healthcare provider about their approach to tearing as well so that you're prepared for their advice during labor.
• The Unspeakables: Labor can come with some really unappealing experiences - like urinary catheters, enemas, etc.  Yuck, but sometimes a labor reality, depending on your healthcare provider.  Would you prefer to set the ground rules from the beginning that you don't want either?  Do you not care?  Do you even know when they might be needed?
• Atmosphere: Is the environment in the delivery room really important to you?  Maybe your birthing center has specific options available for lighting, music, and aromatherapy?  If you're giving birth at home, do you know how you want the room set-up?  If you're giving birth in the hospital, what options are available to limit noise? 
• C-Sections: Some women know going into labor that they are having a c-section - you've been advised against a VBAC, your child is deemed too large for vaginal delivery, health concerns, etc.  If you are one of those women, have a very long and detailed conversation with your healthcare provider on what to expect - Length of the procedure, what happens to the baby afterward, what the recovery time is like, etc.  Be educated - this is a major surgery and there is a lot that comes with it, despite the current culture that c-sections are "normal."

This is only the first post in my "Birth Plan Series" - this series will also cover Delivery, Postpartum, Emergencies, and Composing your Birth Plan.  This isn't, of course, going to include every possible consideration - but it'll hit the bigger topics and touch on alternative interventions.

Cloth Diaper Stash 1.0

In gearing up for Baby Cozy #2, we've committed to cloth diapering.  We made this decision based on a few different factors.

1. The primary factor:  COST.  Diaper Decisions has a wonderful cost breakdown which basically lays out that disposable diapers cost roughly $2600 over 2.5 years - where cloth diapers can cost as little as $400 over that same time frame, depending on which cloth diapering methods you use (and how frugal you get with your purchases).
2. Eco-Friendly.  Have you ever stopped to think about how much waste is caused by just one baby's disposable diapers?  I don't even want to think about it... in fact, it makes me mad that I didn't get educated on cloth diapering with my first born.
3. They're so freakin' cute!  Okay.. this isn't a very good factor to have used in my decision making, but given that I'm having a baby girl and the amount of prints and colors available in cloth diapers... I mean, come on!  They're CUTE!

Now that we've made the choice to cloth diaper, I'm aiming to make the most out of cost-savings and try out a lot of different "budget brands" while building our diaper stash - This means that if we come across a brand or style we don't like, it won't kill me to get rid of the diapers that don't work out.  Plus, a side benefit of cloth diapers is re-sale value!  If you no longer need a diaper, or your entire stash, there are ways to sell them for cost-recovery (awesome!).

Here's my first 13 diapers -we're aiming for a stash of 20+ by the time Cozy Baby #2 gets here, and I know that my parents are excited to assist with a couple diapers too, which is fabulous for our goal of cost savings.  I'll be reviewing some of these "budget brands" once the baby is here so that you can see if the savings were worth it.


Diapers 1 & 2: Nono's Baby Pocket Diapers with microfiber inserts
Cost per diaper, including insert: $7.65
Shipping: Free
Details:
1. Face fabric: 100% polyester; Sandwich: green waterproof breathable TPU elastic membrane
2. Snap closures
3. Lining: brushed cloth
4. For babies weighing 6.5-28 pounds

Diapers 3 & 4: Baby City Pocket Diapers with mircofiber inserts
Cost per diaper, including insert: $8.75
Shipping: Free
Details:
1. Outer/Cover Layer is made from New lmproved Thermoplastic Polyurethane (TPU) Laminated Fabric
2. Snap closures
3. For babies weighing 6.5-28 pounds

Diapers 5 though 10:  Kawaii Cross-Over Square Tab Snap One Size Pocket Diapers with mircofiber inserts
Cost per diaper, including insert: $8.33
Shipping: Free
Details:
1. Cross-Over Squared Tab Snap Diaper has cross-over snaps and hip snaps
2. Waterproof, breathable outer made of two layers of TPU laminated fabric and a soft inner lining of micro fleece
3. Snap closures
4. For babies weighing 8-36 pounds

Diapers 11 through 13: Kawaii Baby Organic Cotton Prefolds (x12) with Kawaii Baby One Size Leak-Free Diaper Covers (w/ Snappi Diaper Fasteners)
Cost per diaper, 4 prefolds per cover, plus the cost of Snappi closures: $21.01
Shipping: Free
Details:
1. Prefolds made from 100% Organic Cotton, twill weave, no bleaching agents were used in the growing or manufacturing. Very absorbent, resistance to pilling
2. Snappi provides safe closure for prefolds without the use of old-fashioned diaper pins.
3. Covers utilize aplix closure
4. One-size covers for babies weighing 8-36 pounds
5. Can reuse the same cover between multiple changes, switching out the prefold at each change.
6. Prefolds can also be used with other pocket diapers for additional absorbency.

TOTAL COST: $144.92 | AVERAGE PER-DIAPER COST: $11.09